In one minute you can change your attitude and in that minute you can change your day. Ritu Ghatourey
Change is in the air! Spring is on its way here in Georgia. One day to the next we have changes in the temperature. It fluctuates up and down wildly.
Does the way you think about yourself change from one minute to the next?
We can use this notion of change to switch our attitude from negative to positive.
If we’re having a bad day, we can change our thinking and find some small positive moment. Something for which to be thankful. I think most of us can find at least one thing in our day that is good. Learning to look for the positive is a habit and can lead toward are a more positive outlook.
Negative Self-labeling
Let’s take this theory and apply it to the way we talk about ourselves.
Dr. Phil says, “We teach people how to treat us”.
When we refer to ourselves negatively all the time using negative labels, we teach those around us to think about us in that way. We often forget to include the things we do that are positive.
Acknowledge the Positive
Change the way you think about yourself by acknowledging your positive attributes and the things you have accomplished.
Think about all the many things you do in a day.
If I think about the people with whom I am acquainted some are nurses, teachers, dancers, gardeners, waiters and waitresses, bankers, doctors, therapists, and volunteers. Some have children, some don’t. Some have tidy homes, others are challenged with clutter.
Clutter does not define you
The tidy or cluttered homes do not define the people I know. Their personalities and the things they do are the things others recall when thinking about the person.
When you are thinking about yourself list all the positive things first. When you think of something negative, ask yourself if this is a behavior that you can change. If it is, how would you go about changing it? What is the first step you would take?
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Diane N. Quintana is a Certified Professional Organizer, Certified Professional Organizer in Chronic Disorganization, Master Trainer and owner of DNQ Solutions, LLC based in Atlanta, Georgia. Diane teaches busy people how to become organized and provides them with strategies and solutions for maintaining order in their lives. She specialized in residential and home-office organizing and in working with people challenged by ADD, Hoarding, and Chronic Disorganization. 8
I so agree with all of this. What we say to and about ourselves is so powerful. We easily fall into thinking about ourselves by some definition that may have been set at a different time/stage or by someone else. Decide who you want to be, and then talk yourself toward it!
Thank you, Seana. I like your idea of talking yourself toward who you want to be!
We’re on the same page in thinking about the change of seasons and how we can use that inspiration to encourage our transformation.
I love that first point you made about not talking negatively about yourself. By doing so, it trains others to do the same. I never thought about it that way before. That’s a life-changing perspective shift. Thank you for that one.
Thank you so much! I am encouraging my clients who engage in negative self-talk to think about their positive attributes and focus on them instead of focusing on the negative.
What you say to yourself and how you treat yourself and your space definitely affects you. Great advice.